Relationship health suffers due to constant daily distractions. ‘Fathering Adventures’ guided father and child experiences help Dads and their kids have healthier relationships, stronger bonds, a deeper understanding of one another, new direction, and more. ‘Fathering Adventures’ has been guiding and serving families in that capacity, right here in South- East Queensland, for more than a decade now and just like they do every year, they’ll be returning soon to facilitate the following guided father and child experiences…
Fathers and Daughters Camp
September 6-8, 2024
Guided “Fathering Girls” Father and Daughter Camp at Mount Tamborine.
Many Dads find it challenging to really connect with their daughters in the way they truly desire to, because they have never been daughters. Fathering Adventures’ upcoming guided “Fathering Girls” Father and Daughter Camp at Mount Tamborine, in the Gold Coast hinterland, will help fathers and their young daughters have healthier relationships, stronger bonds, and a deeper understanding of one another.
“I look back at where our family was more than 12 months ago, and where we are now, and I can only be grateful to Fathering Adventures for making these experiences available.” – Peter Kucharski, a Dad from Sydney, NSW
You can find out more here about the Father and daughter camps.
Fathers and Teenage Sons Adventure
October 18-20, 2024
Guided “Rite of Passage” 3 Full Day Son and Father Adventure experience at Burleigh Heads.
Teenage boys struggle when they are not actively and adequately guided through their most challenging life transition – from boyhood to manhood. Fathering Adventures’ upcoming guided “Rite of Passage” 3 Full Day Son and Father Adventure experience at Burleigh Heads on the Gold Coast, is a proven process that results in healthier relationships, a deeper understanding of one another, and new direction, into the future.
“Fathering Adventures taught me life-changing lessons. I made new friends, and made a best friend in a man whom I came to respect so much more… my father.” – Tim Fenton, a son from Tweed Heads, Northern NSW
You can find out more here about the Son and father adventures.
Fathers and Younger Sons Weekend Experience
November 1-3, 2024
Guided “Fathering Boys” Father and Son Adventure Weekend experience at Mapleton.
Some men fall short in their fathering because they have forgotten what they had wanted and needed from their Dads when they were boys.
Fathering Adventures’ upcoming guided “Fathering Boys” Father and Son Adventure Weekend experience at Mapleton, in the Sunshine Coast hinterland, will help fathers and their younger sons have healthier relationships, stronger bonds, and a deeper understanding of one another.
“My son and I had the incredible privilege of taking part in one of the most life-changing self- development and learning experiences I’ve experienced. A ringing endorsement of Fathering Adventures – an organization that’s ACTUALLY changing the world – one group of Dads at a time.” Trevor Manokore – A Dad from Brisbane, QLD
You can find out more here about the Father and younger son adventure weekends.
More about Fathering Adventures
Darren Lewis, 2011 QLD Father of the Year and founder of Fathering Adventures, knows a thing or two about the importance of spending quality time with your children. Cath Johnsen caught up with him to find out how dads can create lifelong memories with their children and foster healthier and happier relationships.
Are you spending enough time with your kids? According to Darren Lewis, fathers are spending, on average, eight minutes per day with each child, which equates to only 40 days between the birth of each child and their 18th birthday. Some commentators believe this amount of time could even be less, depending on family circumstances.
“So beginning with the end in mind… preparing our children for adulthood… is that enough time to impart everything we desire to impart?” Darren questioned? “I suggest not.”
So what to do? Darren, a father of four himself, suggested that dads record an inventory of the time they spend with each child, each day, over a two week period. Divide that total number by 14, and you’ll have your average amount of time spent daily with your child.
“Once that has been established, you can always add to that time, slowly, by maybe just one minute extra each day, which is more than likely a 10 per cent increase right there,” Darren suggested.
“It’s also very handy to ask each of your children, ‘Do you feel I spend enough time with you?’. If the answer is no, then it’s important to shift some time around, and make that child a priority,” he said.
Adventure camps
Run several times per year at different locations throughout Australia, the Fathering Adventures camps are a facilitated time away for Dads wanting to spend one-on-one time with their child or teen. Dads can simply turn up with their child, and everything is taken care of – from food and accommodation, to all the activities, which always include an adventure component.
“We offer the outdoor adventure component in everything we do because it’s really important for fathers to have fun with their kids, and likewise, for kids to have fun with their fathers,” Darren explained.
“As a shared experience, it can bring people together like nearly nothing else can, which is why they are commonly used in building teams. It also provides an element of risk, or danger (albeit well mitigated). The challenging nature of it assists the participants in potentially making both personal, and relational, discoveries, especially when fears are faced, and overcome.”
Darren said that it is experiences like these camps that provide lifelong lessons and lifelong memories.
“If a parent is not present or involved in a child’s life, then it is highly likely that the child will begin to believe the lie that he or she has very little value or worth,” Darren said.
“Dr Anthony P. Witham said that ‘children spell LOVE, T-I-M-E.’. I agree wholeheartedly. As parents, we should be investing richly into each of our children, in numerous ways, and investing richly into the relationship we have with each of them. A relationship is the foundation for everything else we want to impart to them.”
Many dads may be wondering how this plays out practically? And how much one on one time they should be aiming for?
“Like everything in life, balance is key,” said Darren. “Every child has very different and unique needs and perceived needs. Ideally, fathers should be intentional about spending one-on-one time with each of their children, even in just short bursts, daily where possible, and something a little longer on a weekly basis.”
“A good place to start is to ask our children the following question, ‘We have x amount of time together today, so what would you like for us to do together during that time?’ And then simply go and do that,” he said.
Darren added that Dads shouldn’t feel guilty about not spending enough time with their kids in the past, and that it’s never too late to make positive changes.
“Don’t feel guilty. Are you spending enough time with each child? If so, great! If not, then act. Make a plan, and work to that plan. Guilt is not very helpful at all, unless it actually motivates us to change,” he said.
“Whilst there is life in your body, it is never too late. The deep desire in a person’s heart to know that their father loves them, and is proud of them, never leaves them.”
Fathering Adventures camps are held regularly at a number of locations around Australia, including North Queensland, South East Queensland, Victoria and New South Wales. To find out more, or to book your place on an upcoming camp, visit the Fathering Adventures website.
Andrew
I’ve taken all three of my boys on the two night Fathering Adventure program, and my elder two on the five night one, with the youngest booked. An experience and investment you can’t put a price on. Darren makes each a memorable event and it has been an important rite-of-passage for my boys.